Love is a complex and multifaceted emotion, often eluding our attempts to define it with precision. It’s a subject that has intrigued philosophers, poets, and psychologists for centuries. Recently, I asked my followers three thought-provoking questions about love, and their responses shed light on the intricate nature of this elusive emotion.

1. What do you do when you don’t feel loved?

Interestingly, many respondents didn’t provide straightforward answers to this question. Instead, they shared activities like spending time in nature or meditating. While these practices undoubtedly have their merits, they often serve as distractions, ways to pacify ourselves when we yearn for love but can’t find it. Few mentioned the less constructive ways we sometimes react: retail therapy, overeating, sinking into depression, or manifesting physical pain. The truth is, when we don’t feel loved, we often resort to these actions, seeking solace outside ourselves.

2. What blocks people from accepting love?

The second question yielded more unanimous responses: FEAR. Fear, it seems, is the major hurdle standing between us and accepting love from others. Beyond fear, respondents also identified guilt, shame, insecurity, and trust issues as additional barriers to accepting love. These emotional obstacles can be deeply ingrained, making it challenging to embrace love when it comes our way.

3. What does love feel like?

This question elicited a wide array of responses, with many likening love to the affection we feel for animals or pets. It’s fascinating how love can take on various forms and be experienced differently by each person. For some, love is calm and secure; for others, it’s joyful and all-knowing. Many associate love with abundance and bliss.

Navigating the complex terrain of love is no easy feat. When we don’t know what we don’t know about love, how can we ever truly understand it? How can we learn to both give and receive love authentically, free from fear and insecurity? These are questions that have plagued humanity for ages.

I’ve pondered these questions for years, both in my personal life and as I’ve observed clients, friends, family, and their relationships. It’s not uncommon to see people professing love while simultaneously grappling with insecurity and misery. Do they truly understand what love is? Do any of us?

What I have discovered is that love is intrinsically linked to feelings of calmness, peace, and joy. It’s in these moments that we tap into universal wisdom, experiencing an all-knowing presence that renders the need for external answers obsolete. When we feel secure and loved, our perspective on life changes. The world seems brighter, and everything around us becomes more vibrant. This is where we all want to be—the challenge lies in finding our way there and staying there.

In the end, the quest to understand love continues, and the answers may always remain somewhat elusive. But one thing is clear: love, in its truest form, is a transformative force that leads us to our most authentic selves. It’s a journey worth embarking on, even if we don’t have all the answers…yet.

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